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Sex During Pregnancy? Is Sex Safe While Pregnant?

Sex During Pregnancy? Is Sex Safe While Pregnant?

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September 23, 2018 //  by Lauren McClain McClain, CBE, MALEd//  Leave a Comment

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Is Sex Safe During Pregnancy?

Many women wonder can you have sex while pregnant? Sex during pregnancy is perfectly safe and good for building a bond with your spouse—and bonus: you can’t even get pregnant!

For most people, with a normal pregnancy, all the things you like to do in the bedroom are just fine while you’re carrying a baby. If you have complications or questions about sex during your pregnancy, ask your provider.

Does Pregnancy Affect My Libido?

Libido (sex drive) is strongly influenced by hormones, which are all different during pregnancy. You may find that you are more (or less) interested than you normally are.

Your sexual desire also changes with your level of physical comfort, fatigue and anxiety. If you’re experiencing nausea, back pain, sore breasts, or fatigue, it may put a damper on your usual fun. If this bothers you, talk to your provider about your options.

Since you have greater blood volume during pregnancy, increased blood flow to your pelvic area is stronger. This may help you to orgasm more easily or more than once.

Can Sex Hurt the Baby?

No. Your baby is sealed in an amniotic sac inside the uterus with her bag of amniotic fluid. Your cervix protects the uterine environment from the things on the outside.

The uterus itself is a strong muscle that enfolds your baby’s world. Your sexual activity will not bother or harm her.

Can Sex Cause Miscarriage?

Most miscarriages happen because the baby is not developing normally. Sex does not change how the baby develops.

Is it Safe to Have Sex During the First Trimester?

Yes! You may not want to because of morning sickness. Or the changing hormones may make you feel more sexy! Either way, listen to your body and be patient with yourself.

Can I Have Sex During the Third Trimester?

Yes! You may feel more tired or just less interested in the third trimester because you are focusing on the baby. You may feel big and uncomfortable from pregnancy weight gain during the last weeks of pregnancy. If you don’t want to have pregnancy sex, that’s OK! If you do, that’s great, too.

Are There Benefits of Sex During Pregnancy?

Everyone pregnant woman deserves to feel awesome. Sex during pregnancy helps keep your blood flowing and your hormones happy. Having a healthy sex life during pregnancy is a great way to connect with your spouse as you prepare to welcome a new addition.

What Should We Avoid When Having Sex During Pregnancy?

Certain sex positions such as deep penetration or toys that bother the cervix should be avoided as they may cause swelling, pregnancy harm or impede the cervix’s preparation for labor.

Avoid any position that is uncomfortable for you or constricts your belly.

When is it NOT OK to Have Sex While Pregnant?

Pregnant Women Should Abstain from Sexual Intercourse if They Have Any of the Following:

  • Placenta previa
  • Preterm labor
  • Rupture of the membranes
  • Your water is broken
  • You’ve lost your mucus plug
  • Your partner has an active or new STI

Talk to Your Health Care Provider if You Have Any of the Following Risk Factors:

  • Unexplained vaginal bleeding
  • Your cervix is opening prematurely (cervical incompetence)
  • Your placenta covers the cervix (placenta previa)
  • You have a history of premature labor
  • You’re carrying multiples
  • A high risk pregnancy

Which Sex Positions are Best?

You may find that certain sexual positions that worked well for you before or in early pregnancy are uncomfortable later on in pregnancy. For example, after the fourth month of pregnancy, the missionary position (lying on your back) puts pressure on major blood vessels because of the weight of your growing baby.

You may want to try out different sexual positions such as laying sideways with your partner behind you (spooning) or woman on top which allows you to control the speed during sex.  As your pregnancy progresses, you may find the best sexual positions in the 1st or 2nd trimester become uncomfortable as you enter the 3rd Trimester.  Listen to your body and try out different positions until you are comfortable.

Is Oral Sex Ok?

Yes. Avoid blowing air in the vagina. Do not give oral sex to a partner with an active or recently diagnosed STI.

Is Rough Sex Ok?

Everyone’s idea of rough sex is different, but in general if you’re comfortable, it’s OK.

If rough sex during pregnancy hurts the vagina or abdomen, it’s too much. If you bleed during or after, don’t do it!

Anything that prevents oxygen from getting to you (and therefore the baby) is off-limits. Avoid anything tight that restricts blood flow to your abdomen or prevents you from being able to breathe normally.

What if it Hurts After Sex?

Talk to your health care provider. Take care of yourself first. Some women find that their vagina feels crampy or full afterwards. This may point to vaginal varicosities, which are uncomfortable but not dangerous. If you have pelvic discomfort during sex, consider seeing a physical therapist who specializes in the pelvic floor after your baby is born.

Can Sex Start Labor?

Sexual stimulation can give you contractions. If you do a lot of nipple stimulation, the oxytocin released this way can bring on contractions. The same is true of orgasm. Contractions can result anytime you bring the oxytocin in a big way, but only if your uterus is getting ready to have a baby anyway.

If the contractions are welcome (and you’re 37 weeks or more along), go at it. Semen can also help soften your cervix! “What got the baby in gets the baby out”.  Do not have sex (or put anything in the vagina) if your water is broken. If it’s too early or you don’t want to have contractions, ease off the fun stuff.

Disclaimer: Pregnancy by Design’s information is not a substitute for professional medical advice or treatment. Always ask your healthcare provider about any health concerns you may have.  

Cited Research

March of Dimes (2015). Sex during pregnancy. Retrieved from https://www.marchofdimes.org/pregnancy/sex-during-pregnancy.aspx

Mayo Clinic (2018).  Sex during pregnancy: what’s ok, what’s not. Retrieved from https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-by-week/in-depth/sex-during-pregnancy/art-20045318

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About Lauren McClain McClain, CBE, MALEd

Lauren McClain is a childbirth educator specializing in low-intervention and drug-free birth. She is the Director of Education at a busy birth center in Annapolis, MD and teaches private childbirth classes. With a master’s degree in literacy education, Lauren has career experience with preschool through adult learners.

Lauren is a widely published writer in the birth and parenting sphere. Her work has been featured in Mothering, Holistic Parenting, Birth issues, Pathways to Family Wellness, True Birth, and Mama Birth as well as elsewhere in the blogosphere.

One of her favorite subjects is breech and fetal positioning. In addition to consulting and writing for other outlets on the subject, she developed and maintains a website to help parents of breech babies make decisions about their care at betterbirthblog.org.

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